I recently took a workshop with Ellen Allard and she talked about TRUST.
Children trust us when we honor their need to do things again and again, just as reading a favorite book with a parent again and again builds trust.
With trust comes attachment. Attachment is CRUCIAL in the development of young children. Attachment leads to empathy. Without empathy, a child can grow into an adult who does not care about the consequences of his/her actions, who is isolated and disenfranchised.
Repetition, done with enthusiasm not by rote, builds trust. Children want to be able to count on us to provide safe, empathic and engaging structures that they can grow inside of. Like a chick, they eventually hatch out and explore the larger world. When they trust us to guide them in their growth, and we take the stewardship seriously, they are better for it: centered, confident, courageous.
The opposite of courage is not cowardice….it is conformity. I recently heard this remark from a wise presenter at a conference.
Let us support the development of children who have courage, who can grow up strong enough to choose morality over popularity.